Funeral's

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They say things come in three and since December 30th, we have had three deaths.  Two in the family and one an aquaintance of ours.  With all these deaths and illnesses it does get you thinking about your own demise and what you want to happen when your time comes. 

The sorting out of our estate is pretty simple.  If either dh or I die, our estate goes to the surviving spouse.  When we both die it's equally divided between our two children.  So far straight forward.  Dh and I were always adamant we wanted a burial.  Now however I am not 100% sure.

In this day and age when everyone is so busy who has time to go and tend their parents graves?  Our kids don't.  I think if they "visited" us once a year we would be lucky.  So that brings us to a cremation.  The whole idea of being burned to ashes doesn't actually appeal to me; also although I agree with spreading your ashes where you want is a good idea, sort of hoped though I would not be parted from dh.

I do believe me and dh will be reunited in heaven, but knowing my dh he may get lost on the way up there....LOL  Dh's brother who just passed away; his ashes are being spread on the football pitch of his favourite team.  Which is free and done by the family with the teams vicar attending; who knew?

We had seen a cemetary in a country church we loved; but are not members there.  It is in the middle of nowhere, so I know no one will visit us if we are buried there.  Then again people have their memories of you, which no one can take away.  Visiting a dead body is not going to make the memories better are they?

Gosh this is a dithering post.  I think it indicates I am not ready to make a decision on this yet?

Have you made all your funeral arrangements or are you still in the thinking about it mode like me?

One thing on our to do list this year is to update our wills.  However as I have just forked out for new passports, that will have to wait a month of two.  It must get done this year though, regardless.

Oil prices, house sale, snow and wills!!!.

Forgot to tell you about the oil delivery last week.  They charged us nearly $1.22 a litre for oil.  So our bill was over $600 for the month????  We normally average around $1,800 a year for our oil.  So far this year it has cost us just over $1,100.  That's just bloody crazy.  We have been turning up the heating when people have been visiting the house but even so.

Got an email from Sarah to say that the home inspection went well on our house, YEAH for that.  Also the couple had an offer on their house subject to financing and home inspection.  So fingers, toes and everything else crossed that all goes well.

I had to blow out the driveway again yesterday, as did dh when he got home.  We have a couple of issues with our snow blower which has resulted in the shear pins being broken off one side of the blower and the plug is now broken, so no electric start {{{SIGH}}}  Fingers, toes and everything crossed again we don't get too much snow until dh can repair it.  As I find it really hard using the pull start, as does dh with his suspected torn rotator cuff.  He finally has an appointment for an MRI on the 24th of this month.

I also finally got around to contacting a lawyer in town to see what was what regarding the house sale and purchase.  I bet we don't see much change if any out of $5,000 when all is said and done.  What with the set fee's, taxes, disbursements, title insurance and Land Transfer Tax.  Also enquired about getting an updated will and power of attorney for us both and that is $600 plus taxes {{{SIGH}}}  We need to get that done though, so we may as well do it when we are at the lawyers office.  We would be getting what they call "Mirror Wills,"  plain, simple and straight forward.  If I die dh gets everything, if he dies I get everything.  If both of us die the kids split everything half and half...............wonder what they'll do with their $20...LOL

Do you have your will's prepared?