Thursday, February 5, 2015
They say things come in three and since December 30th, we have had three deaths. Two in the family and one an aquaintance of ours. With all these deaths and illnesses it does get you thinking about your own demise and what you want to happen when your time comes.
The sorting out of our estate is pretty simple. If either dh or I die, our estate goes to the surviving spouse. When we both die it's equally divided between our two children. So far straight forward. Dh and I were always adamant we wanted a burial. Now however I am not 100% sure.
In this day and age when everyone is so busy who has time to go and tend their parents graves? Our kids don't. I think if they "visited" us once a year we would be lucky. So that brings us to a cremation. The whole idea of being burned to ashes doesn't actually appeal to me; also although I agree with spreading your ashes where you want is a good idea, sort of hoped though I would not be parted from dh.
I do believe me and dh will be reunited in heaven, but knowing my dh he may get lost on the way up there....LOL Dh's brother who just passed away; his ashes are being spread on the football pitch of his favourite team. Which is free and done by the family with the teams vicar attending; who knew?
We had seen a cemetary in a country church we loved; but are not members there. It is in the middle of nowhere, so I know no one will visit us if we are buried there. Then again people have their memories of you, which no one can take away. Visiting a dead body is not going to make the memories better are they?
Gosh this is a dithering post. I think it indicates I am not ready to make a decision on this yet?
Have you made all your funeral arrangements or are you still in the thinking about it mode like me?
One thing on our to do list this year is to update our wills. However as I have just forked out for new passports, that will have to wait a month of two. It must get done this year though, regardless.