Saturday, November 18, 2017

Disappointed in myself........

Without going into full details or name names I am disappointed in myself that I have let the actions of a couple of people hurt me and have let them walk over me and make me do things I don't want to do.

I need to stand up for myself more and gain a stronger back bone to deal with these things. Oh and more importantly say NO, instead of yes.

Enough said.............

7 comments:

angela said...

Hardest thing to learn for most women
Don’t be so hard on yourself. We are all in the same boat.

JoAnn said...

I think we all do this, but I have to remind myself that letting myself dwell on any mistakes especially when other people's unkindness hurts me continues to give them power. Also as I've aged I have made a conscious decision that if I live my genuine life I'm someone who will put myself "out there" , and I accept the consequences. I don't want the alternative. My favourite phrase "it is what it is".

Karen said...

Aww Gill, I'm so sorry you have this experience to ruin your weekend.

William Kendall said...

I've been there. I went for years putting up with emotional abuse from both of my sisters, and it did a lot of damage.

Out My window said...

I think my middle name used to be door mat, but you are a kind sensitive person and that is bound to happen. So pick up your big girl panties and move on.

Joolz said...

Saying NO to someone who always expects you to say YES, is very empowering. I learned that a few years ago.
Now, if I don’t want to do something, I say no, rather that loathingly going along with it. I’m much happier for it.

Winifred said...

It is quite difficult to say no sometimes. I found that when I eventually did people just didn't accept it. They call it being assertive but when I asserted myself it was taken as me being aggressive which I wasn't. It wasn't what they expected of me after years of just knuckling down.

People are strange! You have to do what you feel is right for you otherwise you feel like a doormat & build up resentment.