Young couple, early thirties. Two children 5 and 2. Lived together for nearly six years, bought a house together. Both work; he will be well paid, her not so much. Decided to get married in March of 2016.
So far asked to buy ticket to Buck and Doe (joint Stag and Hen night). Dh only bought one as he has no intention of going and they cost a lot more money on the night anyhow. $10
Bridal Shower; being thrown by future mother-in-law and sister-in-law in a banquet hall (sister-in-law's wedding reception there, very fancy place). Bride registered at Sears; lots of stuff on the registry. Money spent........? Hoping to spend under $100; very doable.
Wedding: $300 cash gift for couple. As the people who will be invited will be the same people who went to the last two weddings we've been too, I will have to buy at least a new top, so hopefully only $50 spent there.
My gripe, I think they are being greedy having not only a Buck and Doe, but a bridal shower when they have a house and live together. Okay you may want the whole Bridal experience, but couldn't you have the Bridal Shower for close friends and family; I am neither. Or have the Bridal Shower with no gifts.
I am quite sure most of the wedding will be paid for by their parents, as his parents put on a big fancy wedding for their daughter. They are good parents and will want to make their children equal.
I am not going to the Bridal Shower as I have other commitments that weekend. I will just send a gift and my regrets.
Are they being greedy? What are your thoughts?